Sure, they mention the sleep deprivation. They mention the symptoms of postpartum depression that you’re supposed to contact your care provider if you start experiencing. They may even mention where to get breastfeeding support if you need it.
Something was different – and much more difficult – with this labor & birth than with my first two. I struggled to put my finger on it at first, but in the end, I realized that my labor turned out to be one huge summation of my feelings on the entire pregnancy. Because, see, unlike with my previous two births, I didn’t feel strong and womanly being pregnant this time around. This time I felt weak and anxious and awkward and just wanted the whole thing done with.
And apparently all that carried over into what became my most trying labor experience of all.
Today is Baby #3’s due date. Thankfully, he’s here already and arrived 6 days ago. I’ve been trying to piece together his birth story because I really, really want to blog about it. Writing out my birth stories after each birth has been really therapeutic for me. Not that I’ve had traumatic births. I haven;t. But just because labor/birth in and out of itself is such a transformative process. Like for real. This new person come out of you. It’s crazy.
I’ve written about birth before.
Anyway. I really am trying to get the birth story together. But until then, this Rambling Ronni post will have to suffice.
Since I’m getting close to delivering my third child and planning another natural birth, I’ve recently been researching essential oils to use during labor this time around. Because why not? Right?
Turns out, there’s a TON of information out there to wade through as far as what oils to use in labor. And because I’m weird like that, of course I had to go on a whole fact-finding mission and search every. single. website. I. could. find. on essential oils in labor and compile all the information into an excel document so I could sort the best – and most popular – oil suggestions.
You know how when you’re talking to someone you’ve just met, and your conversation follows the usual social mores about weather or occupations or where you’re from originally, or whatever? Well, if you’re a mom of littles and you’re conversing with another mom of littles, at some point, you talk about your birth experience(s).
NOT because we’re all trying to secretly judge each other (not all moms are as vindictive and petty as all the online magazines and mom blog articles like to portray us, ok?) – but because the process of giving birth is typically, like, a pretty big deal event to a woman. And talking about our birth stories with other women – who actually get why we have this crazy strong need to have to talk about them – somehow creates this weird motherly and womanly unifying bond of having been in the trenches together.
So yes, I kind of like hearing birth stories. No matter how they happened.
Even still, I always get a; bit, um, cautious, when it comes to how to approach my previous birth stories or current birth plans when in conversation. I find myself reading the crowd carefully before I start sharing too much.
I’d felt silly when KP had received the new grill as a gift, because I knew that we might be turning around and selling it a few weeks later if we were moving. I had a hard time accepting the porch rocker and rug that my mom had bought for our back patio for the same reason; I thought we might have to get rid of it soon. I’d almost rather them have gifted us grocery store gift cards, which we had more immediate need for. But you can’t say things like that, and they were gifts, and I figured that in the meantime, we might as well enjoy them. If so be it, well, then at least we were going out with a party.
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