marriage

I Asked 32 Bloggers: “Why Get Married? Why STAY Married?” – Here’s What They Said

This has been one of the coolest little projects I’ve ever taken on. For awhile now, I’d considered writing a blog post about Why Get Married? Why Stay Married? (if you don’t understand why these questions are different – you’re probably either not married, or haven’t been for long.) similar in vein to my Why Have Kids? post. But knowing that I have the propensity to dive into topics a bit too deeply than most people care about, lol, I had another idea: What if I compiled a list of why other couples chose to get married and why they continue to stay married?

And that’s what I did! 

I first reached out to some of the marriage bloggers I knew and liked. Surprisingly, several of them responded. So I started reaching out farther to more bloggers in different niches. I asked around in some of my blogging facebook groups – would anyone like to contribute? Bloggers I followed on Instagram but had never spoken to – I left them a message on their website.  Read more…

Best Marriage Bloggers – My Favorite Bloggers Who Blog About Marriage

Since I started blogging in the marriage niche, I’ve been fortunate to stumble upon a lot of other marriage blogs. Some marriage blogs I enjoy and consider to be some of the best marriage blogs, others blogs are not really my thing or what I’m looking for. Unfortunately, many marriage blogs I’ve found are:
• Written solely with a Christian audience in mind and only relatable to a Christian audience.
• Blogs that ONLY talk about the happy moments of marriage and feel unrealistic.
• Simple, pat, and cliched answers that don’t address the depths of where marriage struggles often end up.
• Focused on more general topics such as dating, relationships, sex, or weddings, rather than marriage itself. 

There is nothing wrong with any of these things above! And in fact are great fits for many couples depending on what they’re seeking. However, I’ve instead been on the lookout for these kinds of marriage blogs:  Read more…

Marriage Intimacy: Boundaries, Comfort Zones, and Date Nights in Bed

KP and I have done quite a few of these boxes over the past couple years and so I’m pretty familiar with how these role cards work by now. Buuuutt…

Can I be honest? I hate to say it, but when I got this Red Party box in the mail and opened it up and read my role card?? I wasn’t sure what I thought about this particular fantasy scenario. 

It wasn’t anything bad. It wasn’t past any of my boundaries (more on this later). It just, well, it wasn’t my style. I didn’t think I could pull it off. It was out of my comfort zone.  Read more…

WeConcile Online Marriage Counseling Program Review: At Home Marriage Counseling

I have been talking to the creators of WeConcile for awhile now. I am very excited that their site is now up and running and that they gave KP and I a preview in order to take a look at their WeConcile Online Marriage Counseling Program!

You know that I’m a big fan of honesty. Especially when it comes to the struggles about marriage. I’m also a big fan of marriage commitment and finding a way to work through the tough times. One of the main goals of this blog is to try to get marriage resources to those who might need it — something I wish I had had when KP and I were struggling. Read more…

A List of Online Marriage Counseling Programs That Might Help Save Your Marriage

If you’ve followed my blog for any length of time, you’ll know that I’m not shy about talking about the hard times that come with marriage. But I’m also not shy in my belief that coupes can work through those hard times. I believe that most people WANT to have a happy marriage and they WANT to save their marriages even when they get tough…they just don’t know where to turn. So I’ve complied this list of Online Marriage Counseling programs to hopefully help other couples in need. Read more…

How to Enjoy Las Vegas With Young Kids In Tow

We just got back from a quick 2-night stay in Las Vegas. Yes, with our two young kids. Yes, and while I’m pregnant.

Though Vegas might not initially seem the prime vacation spot in our given situation, it ended up being a perfect trip for us. And it could be for you too – just because you have young kids (or don’t or can’t drink) it doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a Vegas Vacation and I’m here to show you how you can do it too!  Read more…

Crated With Love Review: My Kaizen Crush (Mar. ’17), aka our date night fight

KP and I have been doing the Crated With Love date night subscription boxes for the past several months. I’ve been reviewing them on the blog to help people get an idea about what one of these at-home date night box services are like.

So this past Friday night -after a long week- KP and I sat down to have our date night. Can I be honest? Both of us were exhausted, and probably would’ve preferred to veg out in front of the tv instead. But we’ve been busy and haven’t even had many nights to spend together lately, so out of commitment and obligation, we forced ourselves to set up the date box anyway.

And let’s just say our date night did not turn out as planned.  Read more…

Marriage IRL Guest Post: When Duty Calls His Name (Surviving Marriage In the Military)

As many of you know, one of things I try to do in my blog is to be honest about the trials and hardships of marriage. But because it’s obviously the marriage I know best, I usually only talk about mine and KP’s marriage. However, something I’ve been wanting to do for awhile is to ALSO highlight other people’s marriage stories.

Today I’m partnering with Vanessa who blogs at Fit Foodie Mom Life as she shares about some of the struggles she’s faced as a military wife and how deployments and long periods of absences have affected their relationship. She also gives encouraging suggestions about ways her marriage in the military survives.  Read more…

An Election. Marriage. Communication and the movie ARRIVAL.

To make things simple, let’s for a moment think about our country as a rather simplistic dualism, made up of two groups of people: the right/conservative and the left/liberal. The two sides don’t always have to agree on things, but for better or for worse, we’re united together as citizens of the same country. And we must find a way to work together.

Hmm. For better or for worse. That phrase sure sounds familiar, doesn’t it? Read more…

Why “Never Speak Negative” About Your Spouse Is Bad Marriage Advice

A couple weeks ago, someone in my facebook feed posted about a facebook group they’d recently been in where women were complaining about their husbands. My facebook friend’s status scolded these women who were bashing and trash talking their spouses, adamantly stating that we should NEVER speak negative things about our spouses in public. Ever.

As to be expected, there were lots of “you go girl!” type of replies, and even more post likes and loves and general agreeance.

Buuut…

Instead of just agreeing with the post, it got me to thinking. Read more…

The Complete List of At Home Date Night Subscription Boxes (& promo codes!)

While I also cover heavier marriage issues in my blog, this post deals with something a bit lighter, but still very important to the success of marriage relationships: Spending Quality Time Together, aka Date Night.

If you’re in a rut of trying to come up with ideas for date nights, or if you don’t really have time for date nights, or you don’t want to spend the money to hire a babysitter, these at home date night subscription boxes take care of most of the work for you. Read more…

Affecting the Smaller Moments to Make a Bigger Difference for Marriage

(I’m no grammar shark, but I *believe* that “affecting” is the proper word in the title, right? Not ‘effecting’. If I’m wrong, someone please **politely** correct me and I’ll fix it, ok?) A few weeks ago, I received an email inviting me to be part of an affiliate program for a website that specializes in providing […] Read more…

IBIL: Turning Our Insecurities Into A Husband Wife Writing Team

If you follow me on facebook, I’m sure you’ve seen me share links to the stories I’ve published on the website I Believe In Love. IBIL is a collection of stories about relationships: dating, marriage, and friendship, and I’ve been privileged to share several of my stories there about love and marriage. Below is an expert […] Read more…

IBIL: When You Don’t Get Your Dream Marriage Proposal – It’s The Other Moments That Matter More

See, maybe I’m just weird, but as a young woman I didn’t really dream much about the details of my future dream wedding. What I did dream about was an amazing and extravagant marriage proposal though. To me, THAT was the big deal. So I absolutely knew that I wanted my future man to do something special. Really special. I wanted him to go out of his way to plan something big that would show me just how much he wanted me to be his wife. I wanted him to “prove” that my love was worth the effort it took to propose to me properly. Read more…

10th Anniversary Getaway

10 Reasons Why a 10th Anniversary Getaway is Better Than a Honeymoon Getaway

KP and I celebrated our 10th anniversary this past weekend. TEN. YEARS. Which is kind of a big deal, especially in this city, especially in this day and age, especially at our age.

Which is also why, probably four or five years ago, I had this bright idea to have a HUGE party for our 10th anniversary. Even though anniversaries are typically not as popular to celebrate as weddings – to me, an ANNIVERSARY milestone is a much more appropriate time for celebration! Especially in this city, especially in this day and age, especially at our age – reaching 10 years of marriage felt a grand achievement worth celebrating. Read more…

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The Ashley Madison TV Show & The Good That Could Have Been

I live in a weird part of the world. I juggle convictions and morals in an environment that often seems incompatible with them. I struggle with what to say and how to say it and what I’m allowed to say. Even with its weirdness, however, I still value the confidentiality of this entertainment business and respect the need to keep bits of information I’ve gathered here and there to myself. Often my random knowledge wouldn’t really matter to anyone else, but every once in a while I’ve been privy to things that give me a different perspective of an issue that the rest of the world is not able to see.

You know the whole Ashely Madison thing? Where all the user email addresses of the infidelity website were hacked and released? Of course you do; it was all over the news and the topic of many articles and blog posts and vitriol. Well, what you don’t know is that KP and I have a history with Ashley Madison. Ok, well, KP has the history – but as his wife and as it’s something we’ve discussed in depth, I have a history with it too. Read more…